We indulge the opposite sex as we let our imaginations take us into an unknown setting of unfulfilled desires we hope our newfound interest will quench. Daydreaming about what we want to happen and how we plan to initiate the first move leaves us eagerly participating in a world of make believe.
Life is a hard road, made easier when we take someone along for the ride. We imagine all life has to offer as we forget about the routineness of all love affairs when the newness wears off. Newness robbed by instant gratification.
We know the downside, we know bliss does not last forever, and we know our imaginations beget issues too much to bear. But we indulge anyway as we satisfy our hedonistic tendencies, and we call it love.
Keeping it real reveals who we really are and what we truly want. We want to be loved but we don’t know who we are.
Not knowing who we are, we settle for what we can get. We expose ourselves and wonder why we don’t get “that quality time” with the man or woman we’ve given so much pleasure to. Did he or she approach “head first”, behind a disguise of meaningless words and strained actions? Were they saying all the right things but really saying nothing? Duped again… because we lay bare all too soon. We long to be chosen, and we are, but only for a season.
Sex comes in all disguises. It’s shoved in our faces, daily, and we turn a blind eye to the underlying messages sent, while waiting for someone to receive and respond back. Sex. Sex. Sex. What’s all the ado about sex? Do you really think the man or woman of your dreams only wants sex?
Sex is but a small part of why couples choose to stay together. Sex is over rated and miscast as love. But, why want sex if you really can’t enjoy it forever and a day?
Enjoying sex isn’t just climaxing. It’s basking in the sun when there is no sun. It’s sinking deeper into bed covers when it’s time to go to sleep. Enjoying sex is about closing your eyes and feeling like every bone in your body has just turned to jelly. It’s not getting off and getting up.
Sex is best when it’s with the one you love and you’ve been together a long time, and you know both of you are on the same page and share the same values.
When two people have a common purpose in life, they love each other, and they fall asleep in each other’s arms each night; that’s probably as good as it gets.
Qualities we think are important to the maintenance of a strong relationship are soaked in the look, taste, and touch of another human being we call our significant other. But I think there has to be more than what we see, feel, and salivate for.
When we’re old and gray with wrinkles, false teeth, and a cranky attitude…what then? Eye candy eventually fails and we cling to the intrinsic value of what we know is real…and that has nothing to do with physical sex.
It has a lot to do with communication. Not just physical but mostly verbal sensuality. Few lovers or wanna be lovers know how to verbally make love without touching. The art of true lovemaking has long been forgotten as in your face buts, G-strings, breast, genitalia and Lord knows what else take control of our imaginations and fuel a fire steering us in the direction of failed intimate relationships.
Nothing is left to the imagination anymore, and we are lost in a sea of double standards not easily defined. How can he or she say they want a good man or woman when the physical captures their attention and draws them into a world of make believe?
bevsangle 