It’s been a long time since I was married to a man, lived with a man, and made love to a man. What a man thinks or wants means very little to me. What he thinks his heart is telling him means even less because it is my belief they are extremely fickle when it comes to emotions. Maybe I have such a low regard for men because they are so needy and can never seem to get very far without the assistance of women like me. So what’s the point in relying on them if they wear you down, sap your energy, and then cheat on the one who loved and washed their dirty drawers?
I am so done with men! There is absolutely nothing a man can do for me on a personal level. You see; all of my hope and trust is in God not man. And, the Bible says to put no confidence in man. I’ve been around the block a few times, and I wasn’t born yesterday, so when other women say, you’re still young and attractive don’t you want a significant other? I want to answer with a definitive NO! But, being the polite person I am, I say Jesus is the man in my life. What I really want to ask them is why their husband looks so much younger and they look so run down. What I really want to say is why do I need to add being a maid to my daily schedule.
There are women who are not lesbians, who can sustain themselves without men. The Bible says it is better to be single if you can refrain from fornication. When you get to be my age; in menopause, empty nester, and with resources, what exactly can a man who lasts two to five minutes in bed do for you except make you wonder why you bothered in the first place.
I’ve been paying attention all these years and what I’ve seen makes me sad, anger, and wondering why women let men take advantage of them to the point where she’s destitute due to his inability to support himself and the babies his seed brought into this world. And, why is she opening her legs to someone who left his Mama’s house and moved in with her instead of getting his own place, in the first place!
Women are too easy, insecure, and superficial. They would rather have half a man, a man who bounces between women, than have no man at all. In the meantime; babies are being born to women who’s safety net is hanging by a thread from the get go.
Check it out! There are more women in college than men. Don’t men think they need an education past high school? Women head of households are more likely to be poor and on government dole for the majority of their children’s lives. After government assistance stops then what…shack up with another man who abuses and uses them.
Wake up ladies! Resources are limited and if it wasn’t before; its fast becoming a dog eat dog global society where only the strong survive and handouts are resented by those who work hard and are taxed to pay for your inability to say no to those drippy words whispered in your ear.
Knowledge is power! Paying attention and searching for a way out of going nowhere relationships with men who don’t have a clue is one of the best things you can do for yourself. This mountain of strife will only become steeper if you don’t start picking away at it little by little, a day at a time.
How do I know so much? I’m an observer of humanity. I’m a lover of people. I’m a realist! And I don’t beat around the bush. And if you didn’t hear me the first time, I could care less about what men think or how they feel. They change after they get you tied up in their drama. No more going out to dinner, movies, date nights. They become the boring human beings they really are and you realize you are the one carrying the weight of the relationship on your shoulders. And they happen to think we are the weaker sex!
Ladies, seize the moment, the day, the week, the month, the year and step outside of that convoluted box you helped make. Stop waiting on him to do something. You take the initiative. Start designing a life you want to live and start by keeping your legs closed. What can he do but go back to that other woman, or go back to live with his Mama.
I’ve been married once and earned my PHD living with that monster. I woke up after I found God, and then I had the energy to call the police and eventually leave him. Before it was all said and done; he bought a house to entice me back into his deadly web of hits and licks.
I lived with a fiancée twenty years later and realized being equally yoked is more about communication and education than just sitting in church together. Three and a half years later I left his house and moved back into my home. He cried and hollered just like my ex-husband, but after trying to communicate with him the three and one half years we slept in the same bed, I was done!
Sometimes you have to go through some things, some men, to see the light and to understand how the “world” works and what you need to look out for.
Look out for AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. When I hear statistics about the number of babies born to unwed mothers into households already at or below the poverty line, I think of contraceptives and the importance of protecting one’s self from not only pregnancy but disease. Obviously some people aren’t taking available information to heart nor are they thinking about the future, and how having a mouth the government has to feed, or a disease that has no cure leads to death.
Pundits keep saying we need to educate people, and I keep saying people educate themselves on what they want to know. Cars, clothes, shoes, jewelry, and other tangibles are gotten by these uneducated people because they see value in what they wear on their backs, what they drive, and what they look like. The intangibles like education aren’t even put on a back burner; they aren’t on a burner at all.
Educations is the KEY, but forcing people to spend some of their twenty four hour day educating themselves or their children is counterproductive to them when they can lay around all day doing absolutely nothing. Pick up a book, newspaper, or tune into current events or better yet read to your children and stop this vicious cycle of crib to street to jail.
If men are depending more on women to fill the void and women aren’t focusing on long term initiatives, then the blind is leading the blind. Under water households isn’t just mortgage terminology. It’s the reality of how some people live from day to day.
So, if a man answers my phone, you probably have the wrong number!
bevsangle 