Month: August 2016

Critical Thinking Matters

by Bev, posted in Politics

It’s amazing to me how sheepish people can be as they are led to slaughter.

A number of Christian individuals have said they are conflicted; do they vote their conscious or vote for their Party?

I find their thinking process disturbing.  What is Christian about the hateful, thoughtless, poisonous rhetoric spewing from Trump’s mouth?

The Evangelical Christian Right is backing Trump, the Republican nominee.  I’m an Independent Christian but if Trump were running under the banner of Independent; I would run as fast as my feet and legs could carry me to someone with the best interest of the country in mind rather than a divisive nominee who has put his foot in his mouth so many times he likes the taste of it!

Part III of IV – Trapped Between Two Time Zones

by Bev, posted in Dating

Maybe that hard earned dollar has something to do with males thinking they should be allowed to have sex on the first date.  If he buys you dinner; you’re his for the night, is the thought pattern behind most date processes.  One night stand sure has taken on a whole new meaning.  Guess what?  So many females sell themselves short because they let the guy take them to bed and all he’s done is buy them a few drinks and followed them home in their car.  Does he respect them?  Will he call again because he wants to get to know her better…maybe?  Why buy the cow if you can get the milk free?  Giving up easily will make you the chaser and him the chasee.

No such luck here, baby.  A guy has got to do a lot more than spend a couple of bucks before I even consider the notion of having sex with him.  For starters, he has got to have more going for himself than his penis.  I mean, I want to know if he knows anything about current events….and what makes the world go around.  I hope you read me correctly.  I said having sex with him, because that’s all it would be at that point.

When we start to talk about love then we’re entering a whole new territory that is about as misunderstood, vague, and ambiguous as some of the other things that are going on today in the realm of real versus make believe I love you.

I sometimes wonder if men think they have to say something about sex in order to make themselves look or feel macho.  I’m sure there are some men out there that take as much pride in their bodies as some women.  I mean, why jump in the sack with someone you hardly know?  AIDS is a killer, an equal opportunity destroyer; and from what I’ve heard, venereal diseases or STDs are still on the rise, so I tend to be more than careful about this dating business.

And that’s exactly what it’s gotten to be; a business of sorts.  You sort them out according to what they can do for you materially, physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Yes, men and women are going Dutch.  She can even ask him out, pick him up, and spend the night at his place, without him even opening the car door for her.

Part II of IV – Trapped Between Two Time Zones

by Bev, posted in Uncategorized

I’m trapped between two time zones and I don’t know how to get out.  On one hand, I don’t want to bruise his ego and on the other hand, I want to slap his face for asking me if he can spend the night.  If you have to ask, you probably weren’t paying attention in the first place.

Why do single women these days think one must have sex on a regular basis in order to feel alive, needed, adored, survive?  Having sex does not develop character or an understanding of people.  I think a great majority of us have forgotten what the Bible says and what our parents use to tell us about sex before marriage.  So what do I know…look at the statistics, (poverty stricken women with children, in low waged jobs, on public assistance, with men no better off than they are who eventually become missing in action).  Even though our parents didn’t explicitly say “beware” all you have to do in the twenty first century is pay attention to what making wrong choices will get you (a lack of opportunities).

I don’t want to sound like I know it all, but at this time in my life I think I know enough in order not to make the same mistakes again and again and again, when it comes to relationships.  There’s no fool like an old fool.  Well, believe you me; there are some old fools out there as well as some young ones.

Am I living on Mars or what?  Should I slap myself and hope that this is all a dream that I’ll wake up from, feeling hopeful about the possibility of finding a mate not saddled with baby momma drama, child support, little education, felony, sexually transmitted disease, anger management issues, no money, no car, living with his mom or other relatives, living with various women…..I could go on and on but you get where I’m coming from.  Making a significant other match in an age of, “I want instant gratification” is almost impossible and one of the reasons single households continue to increase while marriage continues to decline.  Is all hope lost or will the family values we all talk about, but don’t take seriously, ever take root and grow into something meaningful?